Okay, help me out here. As a writer of young adult books and a mother of an almost teenager, I’m doing my level best to know and to stay on top of what is affecting teens these days.
I mean, I was a teen once. I remember many of the feelings of growing and developing and changing. These feelings are not easy to forget.
But the world is on a constant axis of change.
I read. A Lot. Magazines, books, newspapers.
And as you probably already know if you know me or have read this blog for any length of time, I am not without opinions on many things.
But I’m struggling with this one.
Good Morning America reported a couple of weeks ago about the ad you see at the top of this post. The ad offers a discount to girls 15 and under on their first waxing experience. Here’s the video:
Now, I don’t want to get too personal about young girls and stuff. But I don’t get it.
The company that ran this ad stands behind their promotion, saying that waxing offers an option to these teens and tweens as a “self-esteem booster.”
Now, while I don’t have an opinion on the actual waxing… I think teens should know how badly that’s going to hurt… and GMA hosts seemed appalled by this ad (see video above)… but don’t tell me that waxing is a boost to my child’s self-esteem. You’re not going to win me over with that argument.
Part of me is thinking, the teens who are wanting a bikini waxing are not asking for a nose job for crying out loud.
The other part of me is wondering if waxing is truly necessary at this age. And what is the magic age for such a thing?
This is not something I’ve had to deal with yet in my house. Whew! (Wipes hand across forehead.) But at the same time, I’m learning to listen to my tween/almost teen about her concerns. Isn’t this what this is really about? We want to provide our young adults with good, supportive advice, keep their self-esteem in mind, while maintaining a level of parental control over what constitutes growing up much too fast. To do all that, we have to be willing to listen to our young adults, keep well-defined boundaries, and know when to let the gray take center stage over the black and white.
But most of all, love is the key to sound self-esteem. Not giving young-adults free reign to grow up too fast and take part in what “all my friends are doing.”
So… I know the awesome readers of this blog have an opinion. To wax or not to wax, that is the question.
Is this a case of girls growing up WAY TOO FAST? Or
Is this much ado about nothing?